I know this is long chickies... bear with me.. all up it should take you about 40 mins.... you dont have to do it all at once. Today we're gonna talk a little about what we want, and the steps to get goals set....think about it over the weekend , maybe grab some pictures that "talk" to you, and eventually make a set of specific goals and do the steps to get there.
By setting sharp, clearly defined goals, you can measure and take pride in the achievement of those goals and you'll see forward progress in what might previously have seemed a long pointless grind.( and hasnt it previously always felt that way Skinny Dippers !)
You will also raise your self-confidence, as you recognise your own ability and competence in achieving the goals that you've set. You just keep swimming and eventually you realise you've reached where you're going!
Why Set Goals?
Your goal may be to lose 50 kg, but if you don’t understand why you eat the way you do
and what really needs to be healed, you’ll fail again and again at that goal. It’s not because of lack of determination in many respects; it’s about lack of understanding and awareness.
Goal setting is used by top-level athletes, successful business-people,achievers in all fields, and many many 'average' people.
( what you dont know yet is that setting goals makes you more then average ;) )
It gives you long-term vision and short-term motivation.
It focuses what you need to learn about, and helps you to organise your time and your resources so that you can make the very most of your life.
So...............
Do you know what you want?
If you don’t know what you want then how can you get what you want?
Seems painfully obvious doesn’t it?
It may seem obvious, but the first step to developing a great plan is knowing what you want. And how do we find out what we want? WE dream!
Thats the first thing I want you to do this weekend.....
DREAM!
Dream about how you want everything to be. The best of every part of you and your life. What does it look like?
So sometime today or early in the weekend
sit with your morning coffee ( or when ever you have that spare second to sit and think) and dream for 10 mins.
Come back when you've done that.
( no rush we have all weekend )
Are you back yet?
Lets Start to Set Some Goals
First create your "big picture" of what you want to do with your life, and identify the large-scale goals that you want to achieve. This is where the dreaming earlier comes back to play with you( in relation to the aquarium these are things like -
get fit- loose weight-
concieve - feel better- look better, - keep up with xxx- gain xxx's respect)
Now grab a pen and paper, log into your blog ,or fire up the word processor. Here is where our earlier dreaming session with the coffee is going to become real
Power list your goals
Don’t worry about spelling or punctuation. Just make a long list.
Spend a good 15-30 minutes listing everything you want out of life.
Think of everything, every part of life, it doesnt have to be directly Health/Diet related, a lot of things will be when you work it back later.
Don’t settle for 1 or 2.
Get a long list.
The sky is the limit.
Shall i repeat it again?How will you get what you want if you don’t know what it is you specifically want?
Annoying aren't I ? and yes it seems like an annoying thing to do, but results will come and you'll know about it BECAUSE you have a goal and checkpoints ;)
At this point do not worry about how you’ll achieve them. Right now just get everything on the list. My list is at least 30 things long at the moment most of them relate back to JKS (I threw in a few financial ones)
Go on- List it out..... I'll wait till you come back.... promise!
Another side benefit of getting everything down is it clears your mind. After you complete this step, you will probably be highly motivated, excited about it all and ready for action. It puts in perspective what’s important to you vs. what’s just background noise.
You back now? having trouble coming up with a list thats a little more then the generic
look betterbe skinny
prove them all wrong ?
Try thinking of the goals this way
A useful way of making goals more powerful is to use the SMART mnemonic. While there are plenty of variants , SMART usually stands for:
* S - Specific & Significant
* M - Measurable &Meaningful
* A - Attainable (dont be silly about it)
* R - Relevant & Rewarding
* T - Time-bound &Trackable
Basically there are 7 rules to goal setting
1. Make sure the goal you are working for is something you really want, not just something that sounds good.
When setting goals it is very important to remember that your goals must be consistent with your values.
2. A goal can not contradict any of your other goals.
For example, you can't buy a $750,000 house if your income goal is only $30,000 per year. This is called non-integrated thinking and will sabotage all of the hard work you put into your goals. Non-integrated thinking can also hamper your everyday thoughts as well.
3. Develop goals in all the areas of your life:
Family and Home Financial and Career
Spiritual and Ethical Physical and Health
Social and Cultural Mental and Educational
Setting goals in each area of life will ensure a more balanced life as you begin to examine and change the fundamentals of everyday living. Setting goals in each area of life also helps in eliminating the non-integrated thinking we talked about in the 2nd rule.
but for now? just stick with your JKS goals.
4. Write your goal in the positive instead of the negative.
Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind. Part of the reason why we write down and examine our goals is to create a set of instructions for our subconscious mind to carry out. Your subconscious mind is a very efficient tool, it can not determine right from wrong and it does not judge. It's only function is to carry out its instructions. The more positive instructions you give it, the more positive results you will get.
5. Write your goals down in complete detail.
Start by writing A new home, define it down to a suburb, then go further A 2 story modern tropical style home with 4 bedrooms and 3 baths and a view of the mountains on 2 acres of land.
And there you have the goal as a whole vision!
We do this so that we are giving the subconscious mind a detailed set of instructions to work on. The more information you give it, the more clear the final outcome becomes. The more precise the outcome, the more efficient the subconscious mind can become.
Can you close your eyes and visualise the home I described above? Walk around the house. Stand on the porch off the master bedroom and see the fog lifting off the mountain. Look down at the garden full of tomatoes, green beans and cucumbers. And off to the right is the other garden full of a mums, carnations and roses. Can you see it? So can your subconscious mind.
6. Make sure your goal is high enough.
Shoot for the moon, if you miss you'll still be in the stars. this is pretty much self explainable :D So Shoot for the moon!
7. This is the most important, write down your goals.
Writing down your goals creates the roadmap to your success. Although just the act of writing them down can set the process in motion, it is also extremely important to review your goals frequently. Remember, the more focused you are on your goals the more likely you are to accomplish them.
Ok so you have a list of main points now right?
Give them a time frame, and a way to measure them..... be realistic about it.... give it a feasible workable date for that goal to become reality. You're not likely to loose 10kg in a week! So that would be silly and de-motivational.
Everything is measurable in some manner.
Now its time to think about how to get there.--- have you got another 20mins? if not save everything and come back later.
Ready? OK.
Lets break the goals down into steps and tasks to get there.
(for the moment think of it like breaking a year up into 6 mth portions)....
For me lets start with a big one on my list ( and the easiest to split up when talking examples)-
Loose 45kg - in 12mths
ok so a '6mth size' chunk of that is
Loose 22kg- in 6mths
a 'quarterly' chunk is
lose 11 kg- in 3 months
a "mth" chunk is
loose 4kg- in 4 weeks
a 'week" chunk would be
loose 1kg a week
Go on and '6 mth chunk' your list!
to do this you have to decide a few things.
How to measure the goal, and how long to give yourself to do it.
How to measure the goal, and how long to give yourself to do it.
If you still have time divide all your goals down to as manageable a small a chunk as you can, this should take about 10 more minutes.
Remember to give yourself an appropriate sized reward at each of your "chunks" .
Remember to give yourself an appropriate sized reward at each of your "chunks" .
You can download it from here....
and the master goal form..... http://getbuttonedup.com/2010/01/tool-free-printable-master-goals-form/
Once everything is cut down into manageable chunks its time to think about what needs to be DONE to achive that tiniest tiny step.
But most of all we have to remember that not meeting goals perfectly does not matter much, just as long as you learn from the experience. and JUST KEEP SWIMMING!
Remember, that your goals will change as time goes on. Adjust them regularly to reflect growth in your knowledge and experience, and if goals do not hold any attraction any longer, consider letting them go
Thank you for hanging in with me my lovies........Keep searching out pictures that speak to you and we'll sort that out next week!
Looking foward to seeing your Goal lists.....
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